Division

When the last parent pass away there is much division to be done. It is especially difficult to do when both children have not been told of the wishes and the parent has not left a spelled out list of his/her wishes. There is a lot of sentimentality attached to items left behind and feelings can be hurt when inheritance is not divided equally. This is the lesson that I am learning after the passing of my husband's last parent.

Jaba's & my SIL's work schedules preclude them from being able to go into their dad's house together. So it's been my SIL and myself going through everything. I've told Jab that it's hard for me to tell his sister, "no, I think Jab would like to have that." It's not that I can't tell her no, because I am representing Jaba's interest while I'm there, it's that I love both of them and I hurt for both of their loss. Essentially, they are all that is left. There are no Aunts, Uncles or cousins that they grew up with. It is just them, their spouses and their children.

There is still a lot left to do so if I don't update as often as I normally do, I know that my friends will understand.